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Server rules

Below is a summary of rules you need to follow if you want to have an account on this server of Mastodon:

  1. Sexually explicit or violent media must be marked as sensitive when posting
  2. No racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, xenophobia, or casteism
  3. No incitement of violence or promotion of violent ideologies
  4. No harassment, dogpiling or doxxing of other users
  5. Do not share intentionally false or misleading information

Code of Conduct

This Code of Conduct adapted from social.coop's Code of Conduct v3.1, licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International license.

Encouraged Behavior

I will:

  • Help maintain a culture of inclusivity and open participation
  • Show care, consideration, and respect for others.
  • Keep in mind the potential for misunderstandings, avoiding initial assumptions of bad faith.
  • Keep criticism constructive.
  • Attempt to de-escalate conflicts as they arise (see Conflict Resolution Guidelines )
  • Recognize and respect the legitimacy of resistance to abuse and oppression.
  • Participate in an authentic way.

Unacceptable Behavior

I will not:

  • Use violence, threats of violence, or violent language directed against another person.
  • Harass — defined as continuing to interact with or post about another person after having been asked to stop.
  • This includes, but is not limited to, unwelcome sexual attention, deliberate intimidation, stalking, and dogpiling.
  • Make offensive, harmful, or abusive comments or insults, particularly in relation to diverse traits (as referenced in our values above).
  • Advocate or encourage any of the above behaviour.

Content

I am responsible for the content I share, and will:

  • Always use content warnings (CWs) when sharing content that:
    • is likely to be distressing or hurtful to others
    • should require consent to view
    • includes discussions or depictions of violence, sexually explicit material, and/or common PT triggers
    • includes flashing or rapidly changing images
  • Strive to make posts accessible with alt-text descriptions for visual media and transcriptions for audio.
  • Give credit and recognize the contributions of others.
  • Promote products or services provided by individuals, cooperatives, or aligned communities over those provided by non-co-op, for-profit companies.
  • I will not post, threaten to post, nor share from this instance or external sources:
    • Personally Identifiable Information about others. (“doxing”)
    • Sexual Material that is either:
      • Without consent, or
      • Depicting individuals appearing to be under age 18 — including Loli.
    • Excessively frequent promotions of a product or service (i.e. spam)
    • Material that promotes bigotry, including fascist, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, or transphobic content.

Conflict Resolution Guidelines

This Code of Conduct adapted from social.coop's Conflict Resolution Guidelines v3.1, licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International license.

Handling Conflicts

loser.cafe is based on the values of self-help, self-responsibility, democracy, equality, equity, and solidarity. In the tradition of their founders, cooperative members believe in the ethical values of honesty, openness, social responsibility and caring for others.

Our top priority is the safety of each of our members and our community as a whole. We will not tolerate bigotry, including fascist, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, or transphobic content and will act swiftly and decisively to protect our members from abuse. We embrace the principles of restorative justice. We want to give people a chance to correct mistakes and learn from them.

How to Initiate Conflict Resolution

We want to prevent conflicts from leading to Code of Conduct violations. We also seek to avoid having productive discussions get derailed by problem posts or by meta discussions of such posts. In the case of conflicts that do not involve violations of the Code of Conduct you should use your best judgment in choosing from the following options:

  1. Bring the concern to the other member directly via Direct Message.
  2. Enlist more support from loser.cafe member(s).
  3. File a formal report to the Community Working Group Operations Team (CWG Ops Team).

Bring the concern to the other member directly

If you feel capable and safe in doing so, discuss your concerns directly with the other person.

Use your best judgment to decide whether to discuss the issue publicly or privately.

For addressing a particular problem post, consider the following template:

I noticed your [post]. Although you may not have intended it, one interpretation is ______, and I feel that is not reflective of [list specific relevant portion(s) of CoC]. Would you please (edit your post / delete and repost improved version | take down your post | put a CW on your post)?

When engaging in dialogue to resolve concerns, consider the following:

  • Foster inclusive dialogue by sharing ideas, asking clarifying questions, and responding to others' ideas.
  • Identify personal wants and needs.
  • Make offers or requests.
  • Propose plans to help resolve in a mutually satisfactory way.

For toots in Mastodon, you can request a "delete and redraft." For editable content such as at Loomio, wikis, or similar, editing can be requested. Posts in Matrix rooms can be redacted. For permanent contexts such as a live call, a request for a public retraction / correction / clarification would be appropriate (and that also may make sense for edited or deleted posts in cases where lots of people saw the original problem version).

Enlist More Support

If you aren't comfortable contacting someone yourself but think such outreach from someone else would be appropriate, ask for help.

  • Private support -- Talk privately to member(s) of the CWG Ops Team or a mutually trusted friend to help you resolve conflicts with other loser.cafe members or other participants in loser.cafe spaces. Make a plan together about what you're going to do.
  • Expanded dialogue -- loser.cafe members may seek to informally resolve their conflicts by discussing them with a group of mutually trusted loser.cafe members. This should be done confidentially.

Someone else can contact the other person on your behalf and keep you anonymous.

  • If you can, you could still help by providing a clear message to send, such as using the template in the section above.

File a Report

Remember, you are always free to file an incident report to the CWG Ops Team to seek help in resolving conflicts. Please see 1 above. We do not look negatively on reports that we determine to describe incidents that do not constitute violations of the Code of Conduct, (unless excessive reporting is used as a form of harassment).

Reporting Guide

This Code of Conduct adapted from social.coop's Reporting Guide v3.1, licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International license.

How to report Code of Conduct violations

We would rather get "false alarms" than have Code of Conduct violations go unaddressed.

If you think someone is violating the Code of Conduct, please report them to the loser.cafe moderators.

Click "report @[user]".

Or DM someone on the Community Moderation Team: You can include screenshots, links, and any other context that will help us understand the situation.

What happens after I make a report?

You will get an automated email acknowledging that we've received it. We will do our best to get back to you within 24 hours (understanding that people live in different time zones, have different schedules, etc.).

Our first priority is making sure everyone is safe. If necessary, we will:

  • Delete, edit, or hide a problem post
  • This may be proactive to deal with the item in order to not wait for the person to take care of it or this may be necessary when the person will not voluntarily address the item
  • Privately tell the violator(s) to knock it off, delete/redact posts on Mastodon, or apologize
  • Publicly tell the violator(s) to knock it off, delete/redact, or apologize
  • Mute or block the violator(s)

We may delay an official response until we have dealt with the immediate situation.

Once we have an understanding of what's going on, we will make a decision and contact you. We will take your feedback into account, but the action we take is our responsibility. This might involve:

  • Nothing (if we determine no violation occurred)
  • A temporary ban
  • A permanent ban
  • A request for a public or private apology
  • A request to participate in mediation

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